how I love is the story of love, loss, and healing. it is divided into two main parts and each is broken down further into three chapters, showing different stages of love. author Kellie (KJ) Heslen employs structured and free-verse poetry that shows, through heartbreak and mental illness, there is always a better way to cope with personal tragedy. this book is a testament that there is a tomorrow. "how I love" is Heslen's first self-published work and is a personal passion project that has taken the dedication of several friends and mentors. this book is a collection of over four years of poetry and four years of searching for the ever-elusive "one." Heslen's short snippets of thought mixed in with recollections that dive deep and explore not only the old flames, but the ashes they left in their wake.