Overcoming Insecurity

Shit happens: that is the most basic rule of life. The world is an unpredictable place. Bad things happen to good people and the only determinant is blind luck. To feel insecure sometimes is normal - even healthy. Everyone has moments when they feel unsure of themselves, because everyone lives through times when life seems uncertain. Nobody's perfect, and any sensible person should be aware of their own shortcomings. There is a difference, though, between fleeting moments of self-doubt and chronic feelings of unworthiness. Constant insecurity is a long, dreary road to nowhere. It drains the sufferer of energy and robs their life of pleasure. An emotionally secure person has an accurate idea of their own strengths and weaknesses. They might be shaken by an unhappy event or surprised by a burst of good fortune, but they stay strong because they know who they are underneath. An insecure person can't see themselves objectively - they underestimate their good points and overestimate the bad (or vice versa), and it only takes a small knock to send them spinning out of control. "[An insecure person] perceives the world as a threatening jungle and most human beings as dangerous or selfish; feels rejected and isolated, anxious and hostile; is generally pessimistic and unhappy; shows signs of tension and conflict, tends to turn inwards; is troubled by guilt-feelings, has one or another disturbance of self-esteem; tends to be neurotic; and is generally selfish and egocentric" - psychologist Abraham Maslow, 1942 The truth is, insecurity is a funny form of self-centeredness. It's the idea that you are important enough that others care about your flaws. The majority of people you know wouldn't be greatly inconvenienced if you vanished off the face of the planet entirely; they certainly don't care about your wonky front teeth, or whatever it is that you think everybody is staring at. By constantly worrying about what others think, you not only limit your potential but also block out the world around you. Your own problems seem to swell to such a size that you can't see around them. The ideal outcome is to forget your feelings of insecurity and learn humility instead. Humility is the modest acceptance of your place in the universe, with neither pompous pride nor harsh self-criticism. If you want to make improvements to your house, the first step is to take accurate measurements; if you want to make improvements to yourself, you have to accept how you are now. In both cases, there's no point trying to make changes until you understand exactly what raw material you're starting with. This is a short, easy to read book on overcoming insecurity. Is your insecurity crippling you? Don't know what to do about it? Do things tend to pile up on you and seem astonishingly difficult to overcome? This book will ask you the proper questions in order to help you diagnose yourself and come up with solutions that will begin to work right away for you. I'm glad you took this step to do something about your insecurity.

• | Author: Carolyn Bright
• | Publisher: Independently published
• | Publication Date: Mar 07, 2017
• | Number of Pages: 40 pages
• | Language: English
• | Binding: Paperback/SELF-HELP
• | ISBN-10: 1520770804
• | ISBN-13: 9781520770802